My mission is to help fathers be more intentional and impactful in their role. I am a father of 5 (husband of 1) and I live in Grand Rapids, MI. Check out the resources I offer below and sign up for my newsletter!
Encouragement
Being a father is a thankless job.
Of course you don’t need me to tell you that, you live it day to day. I am not saying that yours kids are never thankful, just that they don’t really appreciate what you’re doing for them. Nor is it their place to do so…they are kids.
Contrast that feeling of being taken for granted to the moment you come home and your kids rush to the door and greet you with a big hug. Emotional battery instantly full!
To say that fatherhood is an emotional roller coaster would be a drastic understatement.
There are times when you are feeling emotionally drained and that you have nothing left to give, and there are times when it just seems to click. To help with smoothing out the peaks/valley cycle, I have been building a habit of encouraging the fathers around me.
This habit of encouraging others helps me to get the focus off of myself. It snaps me out of the negative spiral and the “woe is me” attitude. It is a bit of a perspective reset for me.
It also helps to build up the men around me that support me when I am feeling drained. We need other men around us, and I was reminded this week when talking to another dad that as men age we tend to have less and less close friends.
My challenge to you would be to encourage another dad this week.
Make it intentional and personal. Iron sharpens Iron.
On the journey with you, don’t let up!
~Mike
📖 Book I have purchased but not started :) ~~> Habits of the Household
PS - I am still working on the specifics of the New Years challenge. If you’re looking to deepen your faith, marriage and discipline, reply to this email to let me know you want in on the challenge.
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My mission is to help fathers be more intentional and impactful in their role. I am a father of 5 (husband of 1) and I live in Grand Rapids, MI. Check out the resources I offer below and sign up for my newsletter!
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